Staying on point with purpose and the state of the world.

Going from covid to civil unrest, a serious energy shift happened.

With covid, we all understood that in order to stay well ourselves, we needed to make sure others were well. So we participated in flattening the curve. But unless you are an essential worker, the solution was to stay home to do the right thing. As weeks went by, a sense of existential anxiety and wariness came through with feelings of restlessness and purposelessness.

Then George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, and others. During covid. The world came out of their homes to gather, physically, and demand justice. This one was not going to be a virtual event. Whether you’re out protesting or staying in, a sense of purpose and opportunity to do something raged. People are donating, educating, expressing, learning what it means to be a true ally (coined anti-racists), and learning that systemic racism does in fact exist. There seems to be a genuine concern and desire to understand.

Like covid, many of us are starting to understand that in order to be well, in order to ensure opportunity and justice for ourselves, we need to ensure wellness, opportunity, and justice for everyone else.

These concerns are real, and they’ve ALWAYS been there.
Everyone always needed healthcare. Everyone always needed to eat. Everyone always had a right to live. With dignity. When shit happens, the most vulnerable are the ones most affected… first.
Priorities always mattered. Civil injustice and healthcare were always interrelated.

When we serve for the well-being of others, we serve ourselves better, because the structures put into place to take care of the most vulnerable ultimately take care of us. Likewise, the policies that disadvantage others come back to disadvantage us. They already have.
When the media stops talking about these issues, they’ll still be there.
Decide to keep these on the front burner. Don’t let them go until policies change. Serve a greater purpose. Go the long haul. You can’t go wrong. You’ll be all the more purposeful, healthy, and abundant for it.

The single most effective tool

is our breath. It turns on our rest-and-digest parasympathetic response, our calm, our clarity, and our spirit.

Sit with your spine tall, close your eyes, and breath through your nostrils, including on the exhale.

Expand the body on the fullest inhale you can make and breath into your solar plexus (just below the diaphragm).
Exhale as completely as you can, muscles of your core pressing in towards your spine, spine remains tall like royalty.
Continue.
Let your thoughts and any tension melt away with each exhale, and then
inhale in pure energy and life force.

When you got nothin’

By that I mean nothing more to think, say, or do to make it better.

Except not to rush to fill that space.
To sit in that void, feel the sensations of the body, and to breathe,
not looking for answers, or to numb,
just letting the emptiness itself replenish the cells,
giving them the much needed savasana from the overtime.
Be still. Let your Soul’s intelligence do its work.

This is like a spiritual bootcamp

Spirituality is to know oneself.

Right now, we get a chance to feel and be okay to sit with the myriad of emotions that flow through us at any given moment.
We get to practice patience with ourselves, with the situation, and with others.
We get to learn to carry the pain that is out in the world.
We get to appreciate the essential workers.
We get to mourn what we’ve lost.
We get to see why we are making the choices we do.
We get to see if we are doing something for our own self-preservation or for others (neither is wrong, btw).
We get to see what we prioritize.
We get to see what businesses we support.
We get to see how we isolate or stay connected, who we reach out to, and who we don’t.
We get to learn to let go, to let flow during times of uncertainty, and to find meaning in each day.
We get to choose to sleep in or get up early, work out or not work out, shower or not shower, pray or not pray, self-care or numb out.
We get to cry, to be angry, to be hopeful.
We get to see the darkness and appreciate the silver linings.
We get to emerge out of this – no matter what the future holds – pared down to our essentials, knowing what we had to maintain and/ or create that gives us joy, meaning, and true connection. This understanding and deeper knowing of ourselves will certainly play into the new normal.
There is a word, shuniya, which means nothing and everything simultaneously.
This bootcamp has brought us down to nothing to become everything and one, all at once.

Do you feel it?

When life throws a curve ball.

Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?

Rumi

Whatever comes up for you, listen. Any judgments you have tells you where your values lie. Even if the judgments are against yourself, it means you value a certain quality that you think you missed the mark on. Realize that it’s the same YOU that contains those values. Look to those qualities in you rather than to dwell in your victimhood or to your perceived shortcomings. We will always fall short in some way when we look at ourselves (or others) through the judgment lens, but what it is is that we are continually shedding old skin and moving towards our next most radiant Self, and that comes through a process of self-identification. And while it does, dwelling in the judgment is not a requisite. Finding discernment and compassion is.

When things seem to be moving slowly in your work

Start with this self-evaluation checklist…

How long does it take you to get back to someone? If you need time to think of a response, do you let them know within 24 hours that you received their message and you need a day or two to respond?

My bet is, you are incredibly thoughtful and intentional, and you try not to make decisions haphazardly. This message is for you: Based on your modus operandi, you aren’t haphazard, so take a leap and make a decision. You can always change course. In fact, making a decision and leaning into it is often necessary for the extra clarity you need. Confusion comes from being in your head drowning in all the possible choices and trajectories. Pair this with the previous paragraph: committing to getting back to someone within a couple of days is the perfect external nudge gifted to us to keep us unstuck.
If you dance slow, others will dance slow with you. They will put you on the slow queue, prioritizing their dance with partners who get back to them more immediately. Think about this for yourself: when you send a text or email, how wonderful is it when someone gets back to you immediately? Pretty wonderful.

Maybe you got back to someone within the 24 to 48 hours, and they don’t get back to you for a loooong time (and sometimes, never on particular emails). Check to make sure that your correspondence is boiled down. If you reply back with a therapy session or too much minutiae in your thought process, you’ve essentially dumped your internal work and your authority on their lap, and that’s not on them. This may be an indication that a phone call may be a better, more efficient way to communicate.

Are you continually apologizing or asking them what they want from you? The ones you want to collaborate with aren’t looking for agreeable people. They want to know what you want (too), to see where both your visions come together, and where the talents complement each other. That said, demands are off-putting. The approach is to find a mutual, equitable, inter-dependent relationship.

If you feel like you are doing all the work so you feel bogged down wondering if you are on the right path, first take a moment to see if you really truly understand what the others are doing, what risks they are taking, what they’ve brought and invested in this relationship, and how you fit into it and have done the same. The more experienced collaborators will arguably seem to be doing less work externally and enjoying themselves more. They make it look easier, and they seem to have time for more “luxuries.” When we take everything on ourselves, or when we micro-manage, life gets tedious and overwhelmingly busy, and we start to feel resentful, somewhat paranoid, and driven by scarcity.
It could be that you are being taken advantage of, and that they aren’t so collaborative and great. But make sure that that’s really the case before you jump to that conclusion. I offer this vantage point because it’s rather easy to think that others aren’t doing or risking as much as we are. It’s easy to criticize others for their perceived lack of true work ethic and mistaken judgments on equal work. We never really get to see the hard work and choices others labored over when no one is looking, the emotional work that they’ve done to get through them, and the financial and emotional risks they’ve taken. At least, that’s how we see things when we are struggling.

You are brilliant. We know it. You know it deep down. Take the leap. Collaborate and get a move on.

You’re not alone

Maybe you know that, but make sure that you do.

We can feel alone even when we are surrounded by friends and community.
We can also feel complete in ourselves when we are literally alone in our room.
And sometimes vice-versa.

What dictates feeling alone is often in the level of connection we’ve made with ourselves and with others. Having a “good conversation” isn’t necessarily sustaining. We can walk away from it suddenly feeling alone. That’s because we didn’t crack through our false identities and into the parts of ourselves that need to be shared. Sharing fulfills our need to be seen and to accept ourselves for who we are, even in our “worst” moments. We didn’t take that risk. We also didn’t risk seeing and accepting the other person as they are, even in their “worst” moments. We don’t need to force them to reveal anything. We just need to decide to accept that they are brilliant souls – like us – with stories and experiences that cloud their God-consciousness.

Learning that we are okay just as we are by dropping the veneer and the judgement helps us to keep remembering who we are. We need each other to learn this and to remember. When we can take on the responsibility to show up “undressed,”* and when we can understand how much courage it takes to do so, we can stay humble as we rise up in our own power and inspire others to do the same.

In the process, you will notice that you’ve begun to attract other courageous souls. And when you close the door behind you, you won’t feel alone.

*choose your friends wisely. This is an exercise in discernment.