Setting the tone for yourself

…begins the night before. How you go to bed really matters. Don’t go to bed with problems on your mind. Because you are creating feelings and beliefs that you have problems, and you take that to bed with you and right into your subconscious mind. It doesn’t work it out during sleep. Have you ever woken up and said, thank God I brought that into my sleep! I woke up and my mind totally worked it out! I woke up feeling great this morning! Yay!

No. More like, I’m so tired, I tossed and turned all night. Or, I woke up at 1:30 thinking about stuff and couldn’t get back to sleep.

Instead of problems getting worked out, they get seeded. YIKES!

Bedtime is a time to indulge. You’ve got your pillows and your cozy blanket… this is the time to literally dream instead of nightmare.


This is not a prompt to start planning. Read again: how would I FEEL.. fully realized?
Don’t go beyond that other than to indulge in what your life would look and feel like.

Seed that into your subconscious mind instead. Remember that your feelings impact your motivation, inspiration, self-esteem, and energy, so this is really important. Your subconscious mind won’t know that the feelings you produce from this was “manufactured” and that the feelings from your problems were “real.” It can only know to be real what you feel to be real.

Wake up and feel genuinely grateful for a new morning. I know, I used to hate it when people would say that. But seriously, is it really that bad? Just do it. Smile. Breathe. Hydrate. Pee. Look in the mirror and see how seriously beautiful and amazing you are. Don’t set yourself up for rush and stress. No news, no emails yet — they most certainly can wait. Get yourself settled. Put your spirit in the drivers seat, and decide what feelings you want to dwell in today.

Feeling emotions

We need to grieve. It validates the loss and allows us to move through.
Anger is important. It reveals our boundaries, our values, and it shows us what we feel threatened by.
Fear: It teaches us discernment. Harnessed, it propels, challenges limitation.
Confusion: It may be telling us we haven’t been living right action (living in alignment). We’ve cowered to fear.
Worry: We are living in the future, using our creative energy focusing what we don’t want.
Depression: We are living in the past, spinning stories using all of the above.
Sarcasm: Fear. Bravado. Wall.
Happiness: We forgot our obstacles and remembered who we were (and are).

False Evidence Appearing Real (fear v. truth part 2)

How many different emotions are there?

The answer is all over the board. I’ve read that there are as many as 7000 emotional expressions, and depending on the source, anywhere between 4 and 14 basic or irreducible emotions.

Yoga says that all emotions fall under (or can be reduced to) one of two categories: Love and Fear.


I shared this image on last week’s post, and I share it again because it is a relevant and important topic that touches everyone regardless of age, race, creed, gender, sexual orientation, marital status, economic status, academic intelligence, or level of enlightenment. It is highly impactful because fear does not stay contained within one individual — it ripples.

Fear can be a great friend. It helps us survive when danger is present. Our body goes into fight or flight mode to give us the adrenaline, will and inner strength to respond accordingly.

Often, however, we are not in imminent danger, and we mistake fear for Truth (Love). We go into fight or flight thinking we are responding accordingly. We make false evidence real. And we do an excellent job enrolling others in our story and finding experts who can support our evidence.

How do we know the difference between false evidence and truth? Below are some questions to ask yourself. Listen to your body (rather than your head). If you find yourself needing to process, consider that you might be needing the time to gather false evidence. Truth is (in most cases) spontaneous:

  • do you point at things outside of yourself as reasons why something is not working?
  • do you believe that eliminating things in your external environment will make things better?
  • do you recognize and own your current capacity to manage what is in front of you?
  • do you ask for help? Or do you try to control the situation?
  • how often do you feel in flow, versus how often do you feel the need to process?
  • what is your relationship with transparency and sharing?

Emotions are God-given faculties. Rather than being an inconvenience, they shine light on the work we must do. And often, they shine light on what is absolutely working!

When fear is harnessed, they can act as guides to help us stay on our path. Emotions give us that extra push, will and inner strength to respond according to what is happening before us; to stretch us beyond our current capacities and into our next most radiant Self. Like a dashboard of a car– if the pointer points to empty, it simply means we need to feed it more gas. It doesn’t mean something is wrong with us. Or that someone else did something to make it happen. Fear is the fork in the road that asks us to make the next choice: Love or more Fear. Often, the scary, vulnerable, out-of-control thing is love; the controlling thing is fear.