I have been coaching clients toward their life goals using meditation as a resource since 2006. Personally, it carried me through the most trying times of my life – back in 2001 – with amazing grace. Having come to it (combined with other modalities) with a healthy dose of skepticism, it proved to be one of the most practical, effective, and non-invasive tools for healing and thriving in all areas of life, creating harmony and delivering the richness of life that we all yearn to experience. I’ve witnessed the same in my clients, whether they have an abundance of resources or a few; whether they suffer from physical ailments, depression, strained relationships, or are unclear on how to step into their next phase of life. What they had in common was the desire and readiness to make change and to not figure it out alone. I’ve bumped up against a number of crossroads in my life, each time learning how vital it is to receive support and to learn to discern. So this is what I do. I support my clients, lead them to their inner resources and towards self-authorized action.
The reason why so many are hurting and overwhelmed is because they don’t trust themselves to make the right decisions. There’s a lot of noise to sort through. Instead of being shown how to sort through them (discernment), we’re expected to do it all, beginning with what’s expected of us.
Some of the tools I share with my clients to help them achieve their goals are explained below; what is used depends on the individual. My main underlying goal is to deliver them to their inner navigation system so that they trust their own senses and get better at enjoying life. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard: I just want to live a more authentic life. This is how authenticity is achieved. As different as each client’s goals seem to be, their end goals are essentially the same: to have inner peace and purpose. They want to know that they matter, and that they’re making a difference. They want to feel good in their skin, feel good with what they’re doing, and who they’re doing them with. They want to stop feeling depleted and look forward to getting out of bed in the morning.
Meditation: I mostly share breath and mantra meditations. The breath is fundamental to your health and sense of well-being, and it’s easy to overlook as a vital tool because we’ve been breathing unconsciously our entire lives. Breath practices, called pranayam, help to expand lung capacity and bring oxygen-carbon dioxide into balance to maximize your body’s ability to nourish and restore itself. It works to heal many dis-eases and increase vitality and clarity as it soothes, balances, and strengthens the nervous, glandular, and digestive systems, and upgrades sense of wellness. It’s the quickest way to upgrade your physiology and access internal support and resources to balance your ability to rest and digest and to step forward and respond to life’s irritations and celebrations. Book Rec: Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor is an excellent resource and an easy read to learn more about the power of breath.
Mantra is the use of sound – in the context of our practice, your own voice – to raise the frequency in which your mind and body resonates. It changes negative self talk to one that supports the expression of your gifts, and helps to see the bigger picture, which in turn delivers equanimity. Mantra is excellent for strengthening your voice (and good for the thyroid as well).
Most of the meditations I share come from the Kundalini Yoga tradition, using the sacred language of Gurmukhi when practicing mantra. I use meditation with my clients early on to help them let go of their resistances more easily, soothe the nervous system, and harness the beautiful monkey mind. Everything else builds from there.
Habit Stacking: is a simple practice of taking small steps towards big change. Habit stacking is attaching a desired habit to one that you can already rely on, i.e. opening/closing your laptop, your morning alarm, your morning cup of coffee, grabbing your car keys, picking your child up for school, getting in the car to go to work… Book rec: Atomic Habits: Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results by James Clear. Habit Stacking focuses on the importance of the small actions that are easy to dismiss but in fact inform your sense of Self, self-trust, trajectory towards bigger goals, and your ability to experience the quality of life that you desire. Small stuff is easy compared to the big stuff, because they’re small, and they offer an immediate sense of accomplishment, strung together to increase capacity for larger, longer term visions… which is great news for the super busy and overwhelmed.
Journaling: gets habit-stacked immediately after meditation when your mind and body is more open, receptive, anchored, and connected to your inner compass and sense of creativity. Journaling time is typically 3 minutes, making it accessible and also less possible for the ego to step in. This is where your soul gets to speak to your ego through pen and paper. Overwhelm gets sorted out during this process, new questions emerge, and your truth begins to take form at the more conscious level.
Calendaring: is to use the calendar like a personal digital assistant – your intentional Self making time for the most important priorities for your present and future Self. This guided process allows you to get into a more intentional space when you write things in your calendar, and the colors you’ll assign helps you evaluate your priorities, values, and desires, allowing you to find balance and reserve your creative energy for where you truly want to get creative. The visual aspect of this practice delivers clarity, easing and quickening the process of moving from point A to point B.
Circadian Wisdom/ tenets of Ayurveda: Ayurveda says that in order to be healthy, you must have 3 things:
1- Balanced mind-body constitution.
Meditation, Journaling, Habit Stacking, and Calendaring helps deliver these 3 tenets through alignment and the holistic way in which your practice connects to your practical day.
What our six months looks like
We begin with the Strategy Call, which is our introduction to each other. This is where we find out what your needs are and what you’re looking to accomplish.
We work in a number of ways depending on where we’re both located. If we’re not in the same city, we meet remotely by video-conferencing or phone. If we’re local to each other, we can do the same, and we also have the option to meet in person, including at times at a cafe, or walk-and-talk. Each environment provides different benefits and mindsets that help us talk and move through things differently.
After our initial session
- I share tools to guide you to your inner wisdom.
- Deeper questions emerge, and you access next step clarity.
- I provide support and additional resources as appropriate.
- You access deeper and broader levels of clarity and action steps.
- I provide feedback and support.
- Your self-trust, decision-making clarity, and resources increase.
- We continue this process towards your goal.
I offer additional support through Slack or WhatsApp for questions and updates that can’t wait for our next meeting. Also included are recorded lessons and practices covering the tools and techniques listed above for you to continue to practice and learn on your own time.
The mix and frequency of coaching depends on availability, preferred modes of support, and for life flexibility. We can discuss how yours might look during your Strategy Call.