There is a difference between destruction and violence. While destruction has a negative connotation, it also means to let things go clean. No hate. Just love and let go. In order to heal and prosper, we essentially destroy parts of ourselves that get in the way of it. When you hold on to any part of your story that holds you hostage, you haven’t let go. You haven’t destroyed what’s holding you back and making you sick. Anecdotal stories are one thing. They help others move on. Stories harbored are another. They hold you victim.
Trees shed leaves to remove damage and disease and make space for new, healthy ones. Natural forest fires clear dead leaves, release seeds, and encourage growth. Such is the nature of some Hindu gods known for bringing abundance and wealth to mortals. A part of their gift is to destroy and put obstacles in the way to get the stuck out of the way. Purging is necessary to make space for new life.
Violence is something different. It’s hiding. It’s an abuse of power. It’s hate. It’s divisive. It’s dark. There’s no rebirth, only disease.
Violence is not allowing our feelings to flow through us, not expressing the anger through sadness. There’s a violence in holding back tears and suffering alone. Violence is acting on anger through hate rather than through vicious, unwavering love. The kind of love you see in mother bear who growls and shows her teeth viciously until the threat disappears. Hate makes us dark. We become the same as the injustice we see, and we become complicit. Anger through love says that what you see is unacceptable and hideous, and your NO needs to be so clear and strong that it shifts the tilt of the Earth. Together, we can destroy what is unacceptable. But we must understand that we, too, have that hate inside us. We can feel it, it destroys us. It disempowers and makes us helpless and polarized. Let’s use it to make us more compassionate and actively work to change it. Let’s growl viciously with mother bear love until the threat is completely destroyed. Block them at every turn. There is no compromise, no negotiation. But don’t fuel hate. Don’t give it energy. Don’t engage in the violence. Be scary though. Remember that Mother bear doesn’t care about you. She doesn’t hate you. She just viciously loves and protects her cub, and she won’t give you a second thought. DO, however, figure out how to starve out the hate. So that we may make space for Life.