Violence, no. Destruction, yes.

There is a difference between destruction and violence. While destruction has a negative connotation, it also means to let things go clean. No hate. Just love and let go. In order to heal and prosper, we essentially destroy parts of ourselves that get in the way of it. When you hold on to any part of your story that holds you hostage, you haven’t let go. You haven’t destroyed what’s holding you back and making you sick. Anecdotal stories are one thing. They help others move on. Stories harbored are another. They hold you victim.

Trees shed leaves to remove damage and disease and make space for new, healthy ones. Natural forest fires clear dead leaves, release seeds, and encourage growth. Such is the nature of some Hindu gods known for bringing abundance and wealth to mortals. A part of their gift is to destroy and put obstacles in the way to get the stuck out of the way. Purging is necessary to make space for new life.

Violence is something different. It’s hiding. It’s an abuse of power. It’s hate. It’s divisive. It’s dark. There’s no rebirth, only disease.
Violence is not allowing our feelings to flow through us, not expressing the anger through sadness. There’s a violence in holding back tears and suffering alone. Violence is acting on anger through hate rather than through vicious, unwavering love. The kind of love you see in mother bear who growls and shows her teeth viciously until the threat disappears. Hate makes us dark. We become the same as the injustice we see, and we become complicit. Anger through love says that what you see is unacceptable and hideous, and your NO needs to be so clear and strong that it shifts the tilt of the Earth. Together, we can destroy what is unacceptable. But we must understand that we, too, have that hate inside us. We can feel it, it destroys us. It disempowers and makes us helpless and polarized. Let’s use it to make us more compassionate and actively work to change it. Let’s growl viciously with mother bear love until the threat is completely destroyed. Block them at every turn. There is no compromise, no negotiation. But don’t fuel hate. Don’t give it energy. Don’t engage in the violence. Be scary though. Remember that Mother bear doesn’t care about you. She doesn’t hate you. She just viciously loves and protects her cub, and she won’t give you a second thought. DO, however, figure out how to starve out the hate. So that we may make space for Life.

Setting the tone for yourself

…begins the night before. How you go to bed really matters. Don’t go to bed with problems on your mind. Because you are creating feelings and beliefs that you have problems, and you take that to bed with you and right into your subconscious mind. It doesn’t work it out during sleep. Have you ever woken up and said, thank God I brought that into my sleep! I woke up and my mind totally worked it out! I woke up feeling great this morning! Yay!

No. More like, I’m so tired, I tossed and turned all night. Or, I woke up at 1:30 thinking about stuff and couldn’t get back to sleep.

Instead of problems getting worked out, they get seeded. YIKES!

Bedtime is a time to indulge. You’ve got your pillows and your cozy blanket… this is the time to literally dream instead of nightmare.


This is not a prompt to start planning. Read again: how would I FEEL.. fully realized?
Don’t go beyond that other than to indulge in what your life would look and feel like.

Seed that into your subconscious mind instead. Remember that your feelings impact your motivation, inspiration, self-esteem, and energy, so this is really important. Your subconscious mind won’t know that the feelings you produce from this was “manufactured” and that the feelings from your problems were “real.” It can only know to be real what you feel to be real.

Wake up and feel genuinely grateful for a new morning. I know, I used to hate it when people would say that. But seriously, is it really that bad? Just do it. Smile. Breathe. Hydrate. Pee. Look in the mirror and see how seriously beautiful and amazing you are. Don’t set yourself up for rush and stress. No news, no emails yet — they most certainly can wait. Get yourself settled. Put your spirit in the drivers seat, and decide what feelings you want to dwell in today.