No matter how much I’ve practiced, and how much I’ve learned… even though I’m disciplined… thinking I don’t need others to keep growing is a mistake. If I go too long without others that, by their mere existence, stretch me, my justifications become reality.
By others, I mean those that have taken a similar path that aren’t afraid to challenge me, or take on a challenge. Those that aren’t continuously looking for ways to “take a break.”
Engaging with a mix of people is helpful: those that I see all the time and therefore are more relaxed around, and those that heighten my awareness and slow me down because I don’t dance with them as much. This gives me a balance of letting down my hair and treading much more consciously. The latter helps me come back to the former more heightened with the benefit of being more relaxed. Does that make sense?
This weekend, as 16 of us, along with 2 trainers, began our course in conscious communication, we got to heighten our awareness. I know this sort of thing seems like a lot of work, but these things really do make a difference. It pulls me out of an auto-pilot that I wasn’t fully aware was happening. And I love that.
There are some really great teachers and authors out there that educate beautifully, lovingly, and fiercely on Black Lives Matter.
It’s up to us to catch up and to dismantle systemic racism. Prosperity is not a zero sum game. In fact, the well-being of every human is so interwoven together that it behooves us all to make this top priority. In the end, who are we if we can’t feel the pain of others enough to do something about it, and if we don’t want to lift others up in the same way we’ve been given that privilege? Let’s stop defending ourselves, stop judging derivative crimes, check our predispositions, and start seeing how we can make change.
Resmaa Menakem: author of My Grandmother’s Hands, therapist and trauma specialist. Talks about body and voice awareness to check in to our traumas and resistances. They tell the real story. Listen to him on the OnBeing Podcast with Krista Tippett. it’s called Notice the Rage; Notice the Silence.
Ibram X. Kendi: author of How to Be an Antiracist. Excellent podcast on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown: How to Be an Anti-Racist.
Austin Channing Brown: author of I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World made for Whiteness. Another must-listen podcast on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown.
Layla Saad: author of Me and White Supremacy. She wrote a 2-part open letter meant for her readership of mainly white spiritual women back in 2017, and they went viral. Here’s Part 1 and Part 2.