Enjoy others as they are. When it’s difficult, look within rather than wasting time being annoyed with the other person. Take this opportunity to get to know yourself better and to allow your reflections to clear out your triggers. Look within and feel what you feel, and allow yourself to let it go. It’s not easy, but it does get easier.
Fate can be looked at as the way the wind blows. If you were on a sailboat, you might be moved according to its direction. This is where you might say, “Well what could I do? I can’t help the wind.” Or, “How lucky was that??” Fate is the circumstances of your life (the wind) that your soul has chosen to experience in order to grow in this lifetime.
Destiny is when you use the sail’s rudder in response to the wind to move in the direction you want to go. This is where you understand your own personal power as co-creator. Destiny is your life purpose, and it gives direction. From fate comes the experience, the growth, and the lessons that supports your destiny.
If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.Brene Brown
It feels vulnerable to be your most honest self. Scary as it is, so is the above list. But one brings you closer to you, and closer to Joy, while the other takes you further away.
Vulnerability is scary, but it’s also the source of your true power, because within it is the real you, and the real you is powerful by nature.
In these 11 days leading up to Winter Solstice, our instructors are teaching Surya Kriya in their classes at Urban Yoga Chicago. Surya Kriya is a kundalini yoga set that cultivates the sun energy in you, so while the days get shorter, you may have increased ability to tap into the light within you, and feel hearty, energized, focused, clear, and happier. I encourage clients to practice this at home on the days they don’t come in, and in fact, some take it further and commit to doing this kriya for 40 consecutive days.
According to the Kundalini Yoga tradition, it takes 40 days to create a habit, 90 days to confirm it, 120 days to make it who you are, and 1000 days to master it. The idea is to choose a kriya or meditation that works on the result you are looking for, and to do it for the appropriate amount of days. If you miss a day, you start over from Day 1.
The truth is, it matters less which kriya or meditation you choose. The real benefit is in committing to the practice for those consecutive days. When you can commit and follow through with this no matter how crazy life gets, or no matter how bored, or how over the practice you are, it cultivates command, grit and caliber of Self within you. This commitment doesn’t come from the outside, but from inside of you: your highest Self.
Because this is self-directed and with no other perceived external reward (like money, promotion or even a high-five from your peers), it is especially effective in cultivating healthy boundaries and sharpening discernment with you as your own reference point. If you break your commitment, no one else has to know. It’s all you. It teaches self-care and nourishment from the angle of self-mastery rather than self-indulgence. And it’s a game changer.
The foundation of a good relationship with intentions and goals is keeping in mind that the primary aim of setting and working toward them is to feel the way you want to feel.
And the Universe magically aligns.
A client who came to class today had this image of climbing up and up during an 18 minute exercise that looked like reaching up to grab thick rope and pulling down on it as if to ring church bells, alternating hands each time. At the end of it, her image turned into falling down bottomless. Her translation of this last image was of failure, and her reaction was something like “no!” She was fighting the idea of failure after having accomplished the 18 minute climb.
She had resistance against her own thoughts: a visceral reaction against the idea of falling and failing.
I asked, “What if you just said ‘so what if I failed?’ or just looked at your visual with curiosity, without conclusion? Or what if you embraced what you perceived as failure? After all, failure could only follow having tried, and trying isn’t failing.”
The point is, why judge and resist a thought that comes up when you can simply look at it as a release?
Especially during meditation: things bubble up from the past. And they simply need letting go. No judgment. Just compassion.
…benefits you more than anyone else.
It makes for a happier life, and you see the brighter side of people.
When there is doubt, and you approach with the assumption that they meant well rather than with malice, then you enter into a more open dialog. You let down defenses.
If you are wrong, that karma belongs to the other person and you move on. Assume good, and you raise the chances of good. This doesn’t mean don’t do due diligence, but it does mean don’t transfer past experiences onto others, nor unfairly judge others. There is more potentiality in relating this way, and the possibilities open much more in your favor.