We want people to see who we really are, even when we don’t think we do. The latter is just our fear talking anyway, underlined by a dream that if only I can just be me, what a relief it would be, “it” would all be over. The “it” likely being exhaustion. But in reality, it could be the beginning of something so sweet. We don’t want to waste precious time surrounding ourselves with those that don’t vibe with us, so let them see us.
Trust makes for a happier life. It’s nice to know when what we see is as close as possible to what we get. Many of us care about authenticity- in art, food, products, certifications, and I would like to believe especially, in relationships. We get pretty upset when we find out otherwise. It’s difficult to fully trust a relationship when we haven’t put our full self forward. We question would the other person still feel this way about me if I hadn’t held back? Depending how much of ourselves we’ve hidden, we will eventually either fully breach that trust, or no one will fully understand what changed in the relationship down the line. That’s because it’s difficult to keep that suppression down forever without it at the very least coming out sideways. Which leads to point #3.
Honest relationships are more sustainable. It’s exhausting to not be fully yourself all the time.