Maybe it’s not the physical distancing we are having issue with.

Look inward. Observe your own thoughts, be curious in them, notice how you react. What expectations didn’t live up? What do you reach for? How much of what you say or think uplifts and how much of it puts down? Even in your inquiries: do they have openness to it, or are they laced in criticism?

Keep it inward. Let’s not limit the experiences of our self-observations with words. We will be tempted to, with the frustrations, tantrums, and habitual responses that will emerge. They only invite our ego to make sure those words stay in line with the identity we are trying to maintain. It needs to make us right, and it seeks affirmation. It makes us needy. When we can let ourselves be in our own space long enough, we can find the wholeness we seek that causes us to reach out. When we become more whole, our reach outs become more impactful and more social.

There is the physical distancing, but that’s nothing compared to the distancing we’ve created from ourselves in the name of connection and being social. It’s when we are most connected to who we are that we can actually be most connected to others. In this way, no amount of physical distancing can take us away. Rather than taking us out of our game, it puts us in our game, with home advantage.

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