Letting me have it

I’m at that stage in my life where I keep myself out of arguments. Even if you tell me 1+1=5, you are absolutely correct, enjoy.

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When I’ve been wrong and someone let me have it, meaning, someone tried to school me, my initial reaction, and sometimes my subsequent reactions, were more likely devolutionary, defensive, and wall producing. Of course until I realized I was fighting the wrong battle.

When I’ve been wrong and someone let me have it, meaning, someone gave me a chance to live my current reality, I got to experience 1+1 equalling 5 for a while until it didn’t make sense to me and then self-corrected on my own authority; or I was able to hear the silliness of what I said and quickly self-correct; or I simply just got to walk the path I had to walk to learn the lessons I had to learn to become the person I was to become today.

Because I have a tendency to be stubborn, this is how it is. If I am less stubborn now… it’s because I got to learn my lessons by looking at myself on my own terms, not under someone else’s.

So I get this quote, not only from the perspective of the person who is hearing someone else say 1+1=5, but also from the perspective of the person saying it. Because in the end, when we school someone without permission, we are telling the other person that we know better and to catch up, and that doesn’t feel good. When given permission, they are more often looking for guidance and loving support to get there themselves, not for our answer. We are all looking, not to be told that we are wrong or stupid, but to be believed in that we are capable of figuring things out in our own unique way. So let’s allow each other to enjoy being “wrong” sometimes, because our ability to celebrate mistakes is our ability to emerge into boundlessness.

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