Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?Rumi
Whatever comes up for you, listen. Any judgments you have tells you where your values lie. Even if the judgments are against yourself, it means you value a certain quality that you think you missed the mark on. Realize that it’s the same YOU that contains those values. Look to those qualities in you rather than to dwell in your victimhood or to your perceived shortcomings. We will always fall short in some way when we look at ourselves (or others) through the judgment lens, but what it is is that we are continually shedding old skin and moving towards our next most radiant Self, and that comes through a process of self-identification. And while it does, dwelling in the judgment is not a requisite. Finding discernment and compassion is.