Consumerism, right? But it’s really the one time of year that I truly think about the people in my life in terms of gifting them some thing for no other reason and then splurging on them (that’s a relative term, so take this as it relates to you).
Of the 5 Love Languages, Receiving Gifts ranks the lowest for me, and for many, it’s the easy one to judge: no one I personally know has told me that that’s their Love Language, but some have said that it’s the Love Language of someone they know…
Perhaps we’ve gotten so many random “useless” gifts we didn’t know what to do with to have made this such a downer. Or is it marketing that caused us to think we need to spend money for it to mean something, and that pressure made it too stressful? Is it too hard to put that much energy into a number of people? Or is it an unattachment thing?
I’m going to go out on a limb here (I mean, not really though) and say that it’s really nice to receive something from someone when it’s right on, no matter if it’s hand-made, or what the price tag is. I have come to realize how difficult it can be to come up with that right gift. In order to do it, some attention, possible note-taking, and recollection needs to be paid. To do it successfully, it requires wanting to. It can be much more challenging to do than to give someone two hours of time to meet for coffee.
I’m just saying. I’ve dissolved the humbug attitude around gifting for the holidays. It can be materialism for sure, but it can also be something truly special. The more we dig someone, the more we want to give them something (including acts of service). We can make it what we want to make it, and for me, the holiday season offers opportunity to embrace the art and gratitude of gifting and receiving.