Consider how much you don’t share.
And how much that must dictate how you show up and how treat yourself and others.
What’s kept internally for ceaseless rumination grows much worse than the actual truth. In fact, one has to question if those stories are true at all. Consider the level of suffering this might cause.
When you find yourself not approving of, or feeling triggered by, the way others show up, offer them the same consideration. Everyone has a story. Everyone is too afraid to be vulnerable.
Everyone with their own stories in their own head, real communication replaced by assumptive treatment that contains some mixture of bravado, passive aggression, avoidance, and armoring creates a lot of hurt when it’s quite likely we all really truly like each other more than we can ever imagine.