Friends don’t make each other feel bad when one is working to become a better version of themself. Friends uplift each other. They don’t waste each other’s time commiserating, saying only what the other person wants to hear, or diminishing others to feel better about themselves. They see the best in each other and hold vision for others to step into their next best Self.
At some level, many of us know this and feel done with the loosely termed friendships that engage in nothing more than crab mentality, dampening our spirit. Each in a bucket of crabs has the capability of crawling out, but the moment one tries, the rest pulls them back down.
As social beings, we are ready to move on from that bucket to a more meaningful way of relating. We want to be inspired, uplifted, challenged to rise to new levels, and we want the support, encouragement, the honest truth, and some prodding to go along with it; that we may wake up and feel alive, aligned and fulfilled. We want to be able to be fully ourselves and know that that will be celebrated.
When we experience difficulty finding this, we become tired, anxious, or angry, and we feel isolated. We don’t want to be with our friends, nor do we not want to be with them.
We can choose to be in community with those that are highly intentioned to become forklifts for others as they elevate themselves. We can choose to engage and invest our energy towards lifestyle choices that make us feel lighter on our feet and clearer in our decisions. We can choose to take risks rather than to stay safe. We can choose to step forward rather than to make justifications for holding back.
They say you are the average of the 5 people closest to you. I’ve seen this in action as I meet weekly with 3 others, and I’ve witnessed that as one moves forward, the rest are inspired to do the same. It’s a contagious and exciting way of being.
Choose community. Choose wisely. Consider KYTT. Ours start in less than 2 weeks, and our emphasis is on prosperous community building.
With love, grit and gratitude,